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 Many girls have dreamed of getting married since childhood, dreaming of a gorgeous wedding, a bunch of guests and a traditional white dress. Having met the future spouse and receiving a marriage proposal from him, future wives in vain think that after the wedding a quiet family life will come, and no one will dare to interfere in your relationship. But it is at this moment that everything is just beginning, because his mother gets the right to be called mother-in-law. Relationship with mother-in-law, what should they be?
First of all, the relationship should be friendly, or at least not overtly hostile. Here are some tips for those looking to have a good relationship with their mother-in-law.
1. Treat all events with humor and try not to show your mother-in-law how you feel from constant fights with her. Imagine you are playing a game and you have to make it to the finale very soon.
2. Did you come home from work and saw that there was dinner on the stove and furniture rearranged in the room? Do not get angry and do not complain to your husband about his mother, but simply rejoice at the uninvited help. After all, the mother-in-law, without knowing it, gave you time to rest. So do something useful or just sit next to your husband and watch TV.
3. If your mother-in-law likes to criticize you and does so at every opportunity, try to distract her. As if by chance, ask about her hobbies, about meeting her husband, or beg for an old grandmother's recipe. And smile, a smile can melt even the coldest heart.
4. In no case do not argue with your mother-in-law, do not give her another reason to complain about you to her husband. Try to listen to all attacks silently and calmly. You can throw out the resulting negative with the help of sports, and besides, it is very useful not only for the health of the body and spirit, but also for the figure.
5. If your mother-in-law is very hostile towards you, gently ask her what you are not happy with. Choose a friendly tone for dialogue and do not be rude when you hear the answer. Explain to the mother-in-law that you love and value her son and wish him only happiness and do not want to take it away from her at all. Make it clear that you respect her as the mother of your husband.
6. Go shopping together with your mother-in-law, to the cinema, park or country house. Tell us a little about yourself and ask her about the past, about what time was before, about raising a son. Leisure time together is a good way to get to know each other better. And, most likely, after such a trip you will return as real friends.
7. Find out the date of birth of the mother-in-law and days of other holidays. Do not forget to congratulate her on these holidays, presenting small gifts.
8. If you have children together, do not interfere with their relationship with the grandmother. If you live far away, call at least once a week and talk about what the children have learned. If the distance between you is decent, try to come a couple of times a year and send family photos by mail.
9. In some situations, reconciliation may drag on for several years, so you should not expect immediate results.
It takes a lot of patience and endurance to build a relationship with your mother-in-law, and don't even think about quarreling your husband with your mother. Remember that mom is forever, and you can change your wife.
Katty
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