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 “We all come from childhood,” it's just that some part with him easily, others - hard and painful. Someone in the first years of their life was absolutely happy, others happily forget the early days, which were far from cloudless, and these memories do not bring anything pleasant. First of all, it depends on the parents, but there are different situations: poverty, illness, orphanhood ...
A child is physically weaker than adults, emotionally dependent on them. Childhood is a time of bondage, but also irresponsible, which can be very pleasant to feel.
But with age, some at 11, some at 14-15 begin to feel “big”, independent.
Physiologically, this feeling is quite justified: your appearance is no longer childish, but internal development and even more so - modern knowledge and skills have in many ways surpassed the abilities of "ancestors". And they continue to take care of you, as before, control every step, impose their outdated views and opinions. After all, at the age of five, all the lessons of behavior were learned, years have passed since then, and they have the same song! Mom and dad do not want to understand that they are no longer dealing with a small child, but with an adult!
And concepts have completely changed since their youth - what was obligatory at that time, behavior, conventions, customs, fashion, hairstyles are irrevocably a thing of the past. They do not understand that now it is possible to speak freely about sex, differences in religious and political preferences, to be members of youth groups that did not exist in their time. It's great that now everything is possible! And how annoying their nagging, discontent is. Probably, they envy that it was inaccessible themselves, but now it is allowed ?!
But maybe you shouldn't be so confident in your abilities, maybe you should try to listen to their words, because they care about your well-being, albeit too obtrusively, not trusting the intellect of a grown-up son or daughter, as they can, not all have the abilities a psychologist. And if you feel old enough, be wiser, and therefore more attentive and indulgent towards others.
Turgenev, a writer of the 19th century, has the famous novel "Fathers and Sons" - then the same problem of misunderstanding by representatives of one age to another flourished in a violent color.
Look back, watch the films of the past - the time of your parents 'and grandparents' youth: in “their time” there were the same “problems” in the relations of different generations. New trends always appeared, the younger ones always found new ones that were inaccessible to the elders.
In the 20-30s of the 20th century, due to technical progress, a completely different generation was born, can you imagine what it was like for them to communicate with those who were born before the advent of the car, airplane, often illiterate parents? In the 60s and 70s of the same century, the "hippie" movement flourished - was it less revolutionary than the "Goths"?
Each generation is unique, but very similar to all previous ones. Youth is a time of searching (as Zosia from The Golden Calf said), mature years usually lead to the fading of youthful fire. Therefore, you should even feel sorry for your parents: they do not have that flame of action that is burning in your soul now. But youth is not eternal, try to understand them. Calm, judicious communication is a prerequisite for your relationship.
Katty
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