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 When raising a child, parents rely on their knowledge, skills and advice from relatives and friends. However, most of the tips can simply be ignored, since they can not only not benefit the child, but even harm the baby's psyche.
It is always better to know in advance what to do in a given situation, so as not to make irreparable mistakes in the future.
Promise not to love anymore
When parents during the upbringing process promise their child not to love him anymore, the child will definitely want to check it out. Of course, no one will stop loving the baby, but the child will feel false in the future. Always, performing any actions, the baby will know that the parents still do not fulfill their promises.
In the process of upbringing for parents and for the child to understand his mistakes or bad actions, it will be best to explain to the child the reason for parental discontent. If everything is done correctly, then in the future the child will already think about whether he wants to upset his parents with his behavior again.
Show your indifference
You should not try to get understanding from the child, showing parental indifference. If the baby sees that the parents do not pay any attention to his actions, then he will either continue with great diligence in order to check the magnitude of this indifference, or even begin to perform even worse actions, since no one will reprimand him.
In this situation, it will be much more effective to find a common theme with the baby, to make it clear that mom and dad are his friends and that the child can contact them at any time.
Excessive severity
In no case should a child be brought up in increased severity, without explaining to him why he needs to do this. You should monitor the child's behavior, establish some joint rules, but you must definitely tell the baby why and why he should follow them. For example, you need to go to bed at nine o'clock in the evening in order to get a good sleep, gain strength, get up easily in the morning and many more reasons.
Spoiledness
It is not worth doing something for the baby all the time, protecting him from everything that happens around him. In the future, this can lead to helplessness and problems in the future, to ridicule by peers and, as a result, to the withdrawal of the child.
It is necessary to give the child freedom of action, to one degree or another. But you need to explain to him that parents are there and will always help.
The mood of the parents
Parents need to show that they are upset by the bad behavior of the child and the joy of the good. You cannot prohibit something, and then, because of a bad (or good mood), allow the child. The child will have a misunderstanding, for some reason it is possible, then it is impossible.
In no case should parents transfer a bad mood, problems at work, fatigue from many worries to the child. It is better to immediately explain to the child that mom or dad are very tired at work and would like that the baby did not take offense and tried not to upset them.
Ermolenko K.
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